Friday, March 25, 2011

What We Learned About Bulgaria


Cities look very different than anything in the states.  The roads are very small and the driving is absolutely crazy.  People will pass you by creating their own lane--into oncoming traffice or up on the sidewalk, if one is going the wrong way, they just make a U turn wherever, and the parking is wherever one feels like parking.  Some people purchase a parking spot outside their residence or business and they install a lock system that prevents others from parking in that spot.  They then pull up, stop in the middle of the street, unlock the locks, and park.  It is very difficult to find things and get directions, as even the locals do not know the names of the roads.  Some of the roads cannot be distinguished from sidewalks.  While driving around, you may see a horse-drawn carriage in the midst of the traffic.


Most people live in owned apartments in buildings four to six stories high constructed in the Communist era.  These buildings are made of cement and have no insulation.  Owners of individual apartments will pay to add insulation to their apartment and this is evident by the addition of three to six inches to the exterior of the building for their particular space.  When they do this, the also will paint their section a different color including purple, pink, green, and blue.  It has recently been determined that adding the insulation and painting the outside is not allowed.  The buildings are old on the outside but often times when you walk into the individual apartments they reflect nothing of the outside appearance and are beautiful and well maintained.

In the states you typically know the location of good and bad neighborhoods but here you can have a mansion right next door to a dilapidated home.  Down the road from nice housing, you may find a gypsy camp.  We saw a gypsy camp where they had set up small shacks that consisted of a board and canvas covering.  There would be a hole cut out of the middle of the canvas to serve as a chimney.  They live out there when it is the dead of winter and middle of summer.  There is no blockage from the elements as there are no trees around. 

Bulgarian’s are not in a hurry to do anything, except for maybe drive.  The light will turn green and before one can put his/her foot on the gas someone two cars back, will be honking or will just pass in a non-existent lane.  Part of this is how they have set up the traffic lights because they hang directly above where the first car must stop, making it impossible to see when the signal changes.  They also have a countdown to the light change.  We even observed the nonchalant attitude at the drive thru at the McDonalds.  There were seven people in the car and we placed our order at the first window.  After placing the order, which took a while, they asked if we would like to get a frequent buyer card and complete the form.  The form was completed while still at the first window.

In Bulgaria, some gestures and non-verbal communication is different.  Rather than nodding their head “yes”, they bobble their head from side to side.  They nod their head for a “no”.  This was a difficult adjustment.  Children that we have worked with have been very confused when we nod our head but say “yes” or “good”.  While on the other hand, when we correct our nod to a bobble with adults, they laugh.

Bulgarians love their coffee.  There are vending machines on street corners with many different types of coffee drinks for purchase.  They also like to offer coffee or tea to their guests upon arrival.  In one day, we were offered coffee at three separate meetings in a time span of 4 hours.  If you don’t accept their offer for coffee, like Amy, you may just end up with three drinks in front of you. 

Showers also do not have shower curtains.  Imagine our surprise when we looked in the bathrooms at our hotel and apartment where there was not a curtain.  No matter how hard we tried, water was everywhere.  We did manage to keep the toilet paper dry.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Let the Journey Begin


This journey seemed like it was so far off when I first got in contact with Andrea Faris from Reece’s Rainbow in July.  Now the journey is upon us and we are on our way for the first trip of, hopefully, many for BRIGHT Children International.  God has opened doors and brought together many connections to make this trip happen.  First of all, there was the fundraising that had to be done.  God provided many generous people that donated time, items, money, and participated in our inaugural.  The result to date of fundraising is $11, 337.00.  Thank you to all of you that made this a reality! With such success, all event expenses, non-profit set up expenses, and our first trip with instruments to donate were fully funded.  The inaugural fundraiser was a memorable evening with beautiful music, a wonderful setting, and great people all with the heart to support a new venture.  

We are now embarking on the first adventure for BRIGHT.  The bags are packed and movement eastward has started.  Packed in our baggage are 5 gathering drums, 60 kid’s wave drums, 250 egg shakers, 125 rhythm stick pairs, 115 single jingle bells, a 5 hand drum set, 100 CDs with Bulgarian children’s music, a small djembe, 150 printouts of our PowerPoint presentation, and a rhythm CD.  17 boxes arrived to BRIGHT’s office three weeks ago and were consolidated down to 6.  There was thought of shipping these ahead, but costs were prohibitive and it was substantially less expensive to just check the bags as extra luggage and it also provided reassurance that the packages would actually arrive to our destination.  Here are some pictures of the packing process.










Thursday afternoon, Amy and Bessie will depart from Detroit and via stops through Newark and Munich will arrive into Sofia, Bulargia Friday at 12:00pm.  At the airport, Tanja Pankratz a missionary with SEND will greet us.  Tanja has been instrumental in organizing the Down Syndrome parent group in Sofia and planning the conference being held on Sunday.  Friday afternoon will be spent getting settled and preparing for the schedule for Saturday.  It will also involve meeting with those members of the Connecting The Rainbow team with whom we have partnered.  Amy and Bessie will unpack the boxes and group the instruments to be distributed to 51 families with children with Down Syndrome, orphanages, schools, and a safe house. 

The details for Saturday have yet to be announced.  However, this Saturday happens to be a day where everyone must go to work.  It is to make up for a holiday that was given during the week in the past month or two.  Due to this orphanage directors will have to be in the orphanage on a Saturday, opening the doors for us to visit.  We are anticipating visiting at least one orphanage and providing interactive music to the children and donating instruments that will remain at the orphanage with ideas on how to utilize these with the children.  Connecting The Rainbow will also be providing art and other activities and donations.  In the evening, there will be a gathering of families with children with Down Syndrome and the Downs Ed group.  This will be a time for families to interact with other families, those from Downs Ed and Connecting The Rainbow, and us.

Sunday is a big day.  There is a daylong conference from 9am to 5pm with four presentations by professionals who work with children with Down Syndrome.  BRIGHT will provide a presentation regarding Music Therapy and providing examples of ideas on how families, teachers, and therapists can incorporate music to assist their children to develop skills and be successful.  BRIGHT will also be providing an interactive music group for those children at the conference and consultations with families as time allows.  When the plans first started for this trip, there were going to be 30 families and a handful of professional where going to be in attendance.  As of Sunday, there are 51 families, 30 therapists, and 30 “others”—teachers, doctors, etc.  The number is expected to grow.  One thing we have learned is that Bulgarians do not plan ahead and do things last minute.

Over the course of the last few months, Bessie has been in contact with another missionary who works in Stara Zagora, two and a half hours from Sofia.  When Bessie first shared about the trip to Margie, she offered to work a way to work with groups in that area if the right doors opened.  Margie began talking with an orphanage and a women’s shelter/safe house with whom she works; both groups welcomed the opportunity.  Sunday, after the conference, we will head to Stara Zagora. 

Monday will be a day spent at the Nezabravka orphanage.  We will have the opportunity to work with the younger children up to six years and meet with a teacher at the orphanage.  We will possibly have the opportunity to visit Samaritan’s Women’s Shelter.  In the later afternoon, we will return to the Nezabravka orphanage to work with the older, school-age children.  We will also have a dinner meeting with teachers and others who are interested in learning more about Music Therapy.

Tuesday will have another opportunity to visit the Samaritan’s Women’s shelter and work with the children doing some therapeutic music interventions.  We will also have a chance to talk with the psychologist of the shelter to share about Music Therapy and who it could be beneficial to those at the shelter.  We will have the chance to do activities with the donated instruments.  After these visits, we will head back to Sofia to allow us to get ready for our return to the states bright and early Wednesday morning.

Somewhere in the midst of the busy schedule there are two more missionaries that we would like to at least meet and talk with.  We will see what time allows.

We are hoping to provide pictures and blog entries as things happen.  In the meantime, here are some ways that you can be praying for us.  First of all safe travels, there are many connections, details, and miles to cover.  Secondly, a smooth transition to the time zone with little jet lag.  We hit the ground running and will be very busy.  Thirdly, that the orphanages and facilities we visit will be open to what we have to share and accept the donations and actually use them with all children in their care.  Lastly, that we will help empower the parents who are raising their children without supports. 

Thank you for your prayers and support and following our journey.  Keep following along and see what happens.  

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

My Cup Is Overflowing!!

Wow, what a fabulous night with a fabulous group of people.

All the stressing and getting down over the weeks leading up to the event melted away as the yacht left the dock Friday night!

Just to make sure that the boat had arrived, Amy and I took a little drive down to the dock at 9:00am.  As we were walking past the boat and we were commenting on how glad that it was there, someone asked if he could help us.  We commented that we had an event on the boat in the evening and we were just happy to see it had arrived.  "You must be from BRIGHT Children International.""Why, yes we are."  "We are looking forward to having you on board tonight!"

It was off for the whirlwind day of errand running and final touches.  At that point, I had no dress and a long list of things to do.  Everything took twice as long.  The dress I had gotten had a hole and a new dress was supposed to arrive with UPS and as soon as it arrived, the boutique was to call me.  Noon came and went and no calls.  "It should arrive by late afternoon" was the answer when I called them for an update.  I was supposed to arrive to set up on the boat at 4:00.

We were getting ready to load the cars with everything, one arm load at a time, it was going to take a while and some strength, cases of wine are not light.  A man making a delivery at the building saw us carrying items and asked if we needed a hand truck.  We said that would be great.  Out he pulls the hand truck of all hand trucks, one large load got everything out to the car!

Around 2:30, the dress shop calls to say that they have the dress and I arrange for the hubby to pick it up on his way to the boat.  Shortly after I receive another call from the shop, there is a bit of a problem.  My dress is significantly longer than any of the other dresses.  Technically it is not a dress it is a tunic.  My dress, with the hole, is six inches longer than even the large.  Houston, we have a problem.  They told me to come by and decide what I wanted to do, find another dress, wear the one with the whole, you decide.  Oh dear.  It was decided that I would just wear the one with the small hole and we would catch up with the store later regarding a long term solution but I needed a dress and didn't have time to try on dresses and change the whole wardrobe.

We arrive at the boat at 4:30.  They announce to me that they have decided to set us up on the larger deck due to increased numbers.  The crew was great and making adjustments and meeting our needs.  The tables looked nice and we had much more space than we would have had on the smaller deck.

People started arriving at 6:15.  By 7:00 most people had arrived and were boarded.  We were missing a few and knew that one had gotten stuck in a detour.  We waited until 7:20 and everyone that was going to make it had arrived.  I apologized to the captain for having to keep people waiting.  His comment was "It is your boat, we can wait as long as necessary."  BRIGHT had the whole boat to move about, three decks and for the price of the one deck!!

The music was delightful, the company fantastic, the desserts and appetizers delicious.

The best of all...BRIGHT had the best first fundraiser one could ask for. Just from ticket, silent auction, and raffle ticket sales we raised over $6,500.  This will cover the expenses incurred for the event and the trip to Bulgaria.  With additional donations given, we will be able to make donations of instruments to families with children with Down Syndrome, the orphanage(s) and safe house while we are there.

God has provided and met our needs for our first event and trip.  He is faithful and patient with us when we have little faith.  He brings people together and provides support.  He builds friendships and reminds us that He is God.  He removes the stress and shows us that everything will work out in His plan.

Thank you to all of you have provided us with support through encouraging words, your hard work, your generosity, and so much more.  It is with your support that we can go to Bulgaria and share the power of music and the acceptance of children with special needs.  Please continue to pray that things continue to fall into place and for safe travels.  We depart on our journey on March 16.

It is time to turn our energy toward our presentations and learning Bulgarian children's songs.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

The Big Night

I can't believe the big fund raiser is tomorrow night.  My mind has been spinning with making sure everything goes off without a hitch.  I know I am doing something right as the enemy continues to try to get me down and tell me it is not going to work.  God is trying to teach me something--patience?  Faith?  The fact that I cannot do everything on my own?  It will all make me a stronger person.

Three weeks ago, I went into panic mode.  We had only sold 15 tickets and I wanted to sell out our deck of 120.  How in the world, can I get 105 more people in three weeks time?  I contacted the boat that we are using for the fund raiser and asked if we could move to the lower occupancy deck with an occupancy of 80.  This would save us money and reduce some of the stress.  They agreed to switch, a win-win for everyone, they can sell more tickets for their deck and I can pay less money for the other deck.  I was praying for 60 people. We are one day away and it looks like we will be close to 75 in attendance!!!

Last Thursday afternoon I went to order the flowers that I had seen on the COTSCO website. It was such a great deal and they would deliver them to my office on the day that I desired.  "Please read the fine print thoroughly before completing your order."  The fine print proceeded to tell me that I must order the flowers 7-10 business days before the event.  That means that I won't get 18 bouquets all complete delivered to my office ready to put into the vases.  I have to learn flower arranging in the next week!  My mom graciously offered to do the flowers for me and will pick up the vases today and deliver complete bouquets to the boat in time to set up.  THANKS MOM!

Another panic set in Monday morning when the boat emailed me to say that we would have to reschedule our appointment for layout from Wednesday to Friday as the boat was not going to be arriving back from routine repairs until Friday morning.  WHAT THE BOAT IS NOT ARRIVING UNTIL THE MORNING OF THE EVENT???!!!!  I quickly responded letting the individual know that this made me extremely nervous especially since two weeks ago the boat was to arrive back on Tuesday morning and that already had me in a panic.  Someone reminded me that there is a contract in place and that if the boat did not arrive in time for the event that friends and family would be supportive and the boat would be in a world of hurt with a breech of contract.

Wake up Tuesday morning, not feeling so hot--congestion, headache, couldn't warm up!  I can't be sick, get everything done, and see my clients.  Daughters wake up not feeling well, no one was going to work or school and I had extra time to sleep and get things done.  Tuesday evening I received a phone call saying we had received another donation--two cases of olive oil.  What is one to do with 24 bottles of olive oil to raise funds when you have three days before the event?  If you have any ideas, please pass them on.  There is a possibility that the donor will be attendance so another thing that must be kept in mind.

So here we are 37 hours from the event.  Things are coming together.  The deck is almost to capacity.  I have many wonderful donations of wine, silent auction items, raffle items, and monetary donations.  The perfectionist in me is trying to make sure everything is together and nothing is forgotten.  The dreams in the middle of the night remind me of things I still have to check on and pull together.  I am feeling much better than Tuesday.  Praying for clear skies and a safe arrival for the BRIGHT Secretary as she flies from Indiana.

This has been a learning experience in many ways.  It brings me closer to going and trying to make the day brighter for the children in the orphanages until their forever families can find them.  It gets me one day closer to sharing the potential of each child and his or her value in the world and to God.  It allows me to be one moment closer to making a difference.  Thank you, Lord, for what you are teaching me and showing me the way.

Please continue to pray for the success of the fund raiser and the first trip that is just six weeks away.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Inaugural Fundraiser

Wow, where does the time go?  It seems like we just started looking for venues and trying to figure out the best place to do a fundraiser and setting the dates.  The dates seemed so far off.  Well, here we are 24 days away from our big night!!  February 4, 2011 is quickly approaching.

It is all coming together and is looking like a nice evening for those who want to get out for the evening and help a great cause.  At 7:00pm on February 4,  we will be cruising down the Sacramento River aboard the Empress Hornblower for two and a half hours while listening to the piano stylings of Tara O'Brien.  Tara has released two piano albums and is currently working on her third album.  In addition to composing, Tara is completing her internship for her Bacherlor of Music in Music Therapy at Music To Grow On.  While taking in the music and the cruise, attendees can enjoy appetizers, desserts, and wines donated by local wineries.  In addition, there is a silent auction with many offerings including a variety of gift baskets, wine tasting and tours with winemakers, photography sittings, a trio of Clesi Red Wines from Paso Robles, books, initial consultation for a home design, CDs, art, scrapbooking items, and much more.

Proceeds gained from the event and silent auction will cover the costs for two Board Certified Music Therapists to present information about Music Therapy, provide consultative music therapy, and donate instrument sets to birth families of children with Down Syndrome at a 3-day conference in Sofia, Bulgaria.  An additional stop is being planned to Stara Zagora, Bulgaria to visit with additional families with children with special needs and to visit an orphanage to donate instruments and provide interactive music time.

Tickets for the event can be purchased by sending a check payable to BRIGHT Children International to 8801 Folsom Boulevard, Suite 105, Sacramento, California 95826.  Tickets are $60 per person and include the cruise, concert, wine and desserts/appetizers, a souvenir photo by MRS Photography and parking validation.  Please submit checks by January 26 to allow for mailing of your tickets and allow for the correct head count.

Please plan on arriving at 6:30 to check in, have your souvenir photo taken, and board the boat for a prompt departure at 7:00pm.  The event attire is semi-formal.  If you are unable to attend the event but would like to help out with a silent auction item, a wine donation, or a monetary donation, please contact Bessie at bessie@brightchildreninternational.org

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Allow Me to Introduce Myself

Hello! My name is Amy, and I am the official secretary for BRIGHT Children International. Bessie and I thought it would be a good idea for me to introduce myself to the community that is supporting BRIGHT. I enjoy movies and long walks on the beach and... oops, wrong site...

I am a Board Certified Music Therapist and a recent graduate of Eastern Michigan University. I met Bessie when I had the opportunity to intern at Music To Grow On from September 2009 through March 2010. However, I am currently working "down the road" in Indiana, 2200 miles away. What better way to start an international non-profit than to have the president and secretary running things transcontinental?

When Bessie called me at the beginning of the summer about flying somewhere with her to do something related to music, I was intrigued and thought, "Sure, that could be fun." Little did I know what was in store. God tends to have bigger plans for us than we have for ourselves. Fall rolled around and suddenly there was an organization that needed to be named, a logo that needed to be designed, brochures that needed to be created, and fund raisers that needed to materialize. I wanted to be involved. I felt called to be involved. Like the song says, "I'm gonna sing when the Spirit says sing." Or move when the Spirit says move... Or go when the Spirit says go.

It's amazing to see how God can prepare us and use us to make a difference for Him. Working with BRIGHT Children International is an incredible fit for me. I have a passion for music and for children (hence the music therapist), but I also have a heart for traveling, and international adoption stories bring me to tears. How blessed am I that all of this has been packaged into one non-profit!

A few years ago, before anyone thought about BRIGHT and before I met Bessie, someone asked me what I would do if I never had to worry about money. My response was, "I'd move to Central America and provide music therapy for the children with disabilities there, because they can't afford services." I just love how God works these things out. While I might not be moving anywhere, I am being given the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of children all around the world... that's really cool (or is it hecka cool?).

People, God is doing something big here! And my heart is all in it. I've seen therapeutic services make a difference in a child's life, and I have seen the difference a child makes to life. Not all of us are able to adopt a child, but we are all able to make a direct impact on the lives of these children and (hopefully) their forever families. Everyone has their own talents, their own gifts, their own resources... I'm using mine to support BRIGHT Children International in whatever way God calls.

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Let's go back to the beginning...

I want to start by telling you how BRIGHT Children International came into existence.
This time last year, one of the families that my Music Therapy company serves decided to make a contribution to Reece's Rainbow's Angel Tree project for orphans with special needs around the world for a little girl name Sofia.  Little did they know what was in store.  Shortly after 2010 began, they started the process of adopting and bringing dear Sofia home to join their family.  I began following their journey and others that were on similar journeys to adopt children from Eastern Europe with special needs.

I became aware of the lack of acceptance for children with special needs in other parts of the world- How children are not given the chance at life because they are born with a disability- How the parents of these poor, darling children are told to send them to the orphanage- How many of these children spend their days in a crib with no contact, no exposure to the outside world, no chance for love and affection.  Many are drugged because it is easier for the care providers.  Many are malnourished and look a fraction of their age. Children who are five years old look two, and are not able to sit up independently or eat on their own.  These children and their conditions weighed on my heart.  These are the children in the "baby houses." Unfortunately, they have a much worse fate if they survive the baby house.  Depending on the region, children transfer to mental institutions between the ages of 3 and 5.  The conditions there are much worse than the baby houses.  They are in a place with all ages of individuals with disabilities, the conditions are deplorable, and many children who transfer don't survive their first year.  Visit www.convenantbuilders.blogspot.com and their posts "The Sad Reality, Part 1 and Part 2", for an eye-opening, personal account of the institutions.  Visit www.nogreaterjoymom.com and read the posts on adoption.

As I followed the various adoption stories and the conditions in even the baby houses, my heart was heavy for these children a world away.  I know through my work that children with special needs can develop and be successful in their community.  If given the right interventions and supports, they can learn and succeed.  These children teach the world more than we can ever teach them.  Ask families with a child with special needs here in the U.S. and so many will tell you that they have learned more from watching their children develop and grow.  Things like determination, the will to fight, the need for love and affection, unconditional love, and so much more.  The children in the orphanages are not given any opportunities to show their potential, to be loved, to learn or to succeed.

I was driving and thinking one day, something I do a lot, as I am in my car a lot.  I was asking God why these children are not given a chance.  While thinking and listening to the radio, a Christian radio station, they were talking about how each person can make a difference, whether big or small. I prayed to God, "How can I make a difference for these children sitting in the orphanages without a chance?"  God said, "You go and give them a chance.  Tell the care providers what potential these children have, show them how the children here are developing and succeeding, give them some interaction through music, get other therapists involved and give these children a light in their world of darkness."

When I shared this with the family that had just adopted Sofia, the mom said that I needed to contact Reece's Rainbow and share my idea.  This has resulted in our first trip with Reece's Rainbow and Connecting the Rainbow to Sofia, Bulgaria.  How fitting it is that we are going to Sofia, the same name as the child who opened the doors to the beginning of a new venture.  More to share about this trip in another post coming soon.

Shortly after that, I contacted another friend who had adopted a child from China, and got in contact with All God's Children International who is planning a trip to Beijing and are seeking professionals to provide interventions and education.

God is opening doors and providing for BRIGHT as we move forward with His calling.  We are excited to see what God has in store for BRIGHT Children and the lives that will be touched.  As we end 2010 and look toward 2011, we pray that the world will be more accepting of children with special needs. We pray they receive the much needed love required to succeed. We pray those children in orphanages find loving families this year.

So let the fundraising and planning begin!